Last week I struggled immensely with the doubts & insecurities & it was really tough. I tried my techniques of distraction but nothing was working & I spent all week circling & questioning. My mind has been in overdrive & I’m petrified of manifesting something I desperately don’t want to happen simply because I can’t stop thinking about it.
On Saturday I saw K for the first time since the Monday. I hadn’t really heard from him all week as he had his mother come visit & stay & now looking back I realise that was the root of my discontent – not that his mother was staying but that I wasn’t hearing from him. Anyway, we had hoped to go out on the Saturday but the weather turned (as per English form) so we decided to grab a salad box from the supermarket & have a sofa day. It was a lovely day just chilling & watching films. It’s been so long since I’ve allowed myself to do that & not feel guilty. Well, I did feel a bit guilty at the time but I have since come to appreciate it. We went out for dessert a bit later & then I took him back mid evening. It was so nice to see him again & just lie next to him. If anything, since he’s moved out, that’s what I miss the most; feeling him close & being able to hear his heartbeat.
We had planned on me going over on Sunday to maybe stay but I forgot about Sunday trading hours & needing petrol so I said I’d go over on the Monday evening instead. We had both got stuck into our respective projects over the weekend; he working on a film score he’d been approached to do, of which the deadline is fast approaching, & I started stripping the wallpaper in the spare room. As a result we both lost track of time on Monday & before we knew it, it was too late. So instead we settled for a quick visit when I finished work yesterday. Again, it was so nice to see him & just have a hug.
I imagine this week will be very much like the last as his dad is visiting from Thailand. I am determined not to let my mind run away from me this time though. I have to remember how busy he is; how many projects & commitments he has at the moment & that there is only so much time in the day & he can only give so much of himself at any one time – with everything he has on his plate currently I need to remember it is not personal & it will not always be this way.
So far this week though I am feeling more positive. Spending time with K on Saturday really helped, & seeing him yesterday albeit briefly. Also, my progress in the spare room has given me a real lift; in 3 days I have stripped 90% of the wallpaper in the spare room, including the ceiling. It was tough going with what seemed like 7 layers of paper, including 2 that were painted! It must have been every layer of redecoration that room has had since the property was built in the late 1930’s! Therapeutic though & satisfying to have done so much so quickly! 🙂
Having reflected & read this back I realise how after not really hearing from K & not seeing him sends my mind into overdrive but as soon as I see him I go back to feeling better & being productive. I guess I’m still looking for some reassurance no matter how many times I tell myself what will be will be & I will be fine.
I have clearly not been able to completely relinquish my fear of losing K & struggle to keep my mind focused on myself (in the sense of my personal growth & inner strength). I bought a journal which came today & has really fired up my motivation & focus – perfect timing too with the 1st of the month tomorrow; that’ll keep my OCD happy! It is designed to be a mindful & reflective tool for self love, & thus personal growth & happiness. It is called Love.Yourself.Lean & I would recommend it to anyone & everyone already. I am planning to completely embrace the #selflove movement & use my journal to encourage me to keep focused on me. After all, if I can’t love me how can I truly love anyone else & expect true love in return?